I feel uncomfortable with my partner hanging out with the opposite sex, what should I do?
As a guy of a wife who had many guy friends before we got married, I knew that she chose me over those other guys. And yet I still struggled and had a hard time with her talking so much to a few of her guy's friends when they were “catching up” over text or even a phone call now and then. I didn’t worry about her falling for them so much as I worried about those guys developing feelings for her. I worried about an emotional connection that could have been developing However, the biggest reason for my having a hard time with them had nothing to do with an “ego issue” but simply the fact that she spent so much time investing in friendships with other males. I felt that I became less of a concern for her. I felt that she may have even gotten lazy with our relationship at times because she figured, “well we’re already married, we know each other, what’s left to talk about?” I feel uncomfortable with my partner hanging out with the opposite sex, what should I do?
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Learn to trust.
I think you should try to remember, that the one of the foundation of a lasting relationship is trust. My advice is to trust your girlfriend, like you said, she chose you. However you might want to also be honest with her about how uncomfortable you are when it comes to her relationship with other guys. In my opinion, there is a reason you feel that way and having a honest conversation will go a long way to calm your fears. I was also the type that had lots of male friends before I got married but I had to scale it down after I got married as respect to my husband and to give my marriage the chance to thrive without complications of male friendship.
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Spend more time with him. Make him not want to spend that time with the opposite sex. Make him want to spend that time with you.